What I Did On My Summer Vacation


The short answer is that I did a lot of sweating this summer, as I’m sure many of you did. The heat and humidity did a number on my ambition to get outside and do anything productive in the yard – and, as a result, anything productive on this blog.

Instead, Joe and I hid from the sun as much as possible, staying inside, behind lowered shades, where we took advantage of the time to read three incredible novels. (I read the books aloud to Joe. That’s something we began decades ago on road trips, something that became a daily exercise during COVID, and something that we’ve kept going today.)

Two friends, Michele and Marie, recommended Theo of Golden, by Allen Levi.  It’s the sort of book that stays with you long after the last sentence is finished. I think it’s one of the most moving books I’ve read in a long time, exploring themes of quiet generosity and kindness and the importance of human connection. Considering the state of the world and the country these days, I think it’s the sort of book we all need in our lives right now.

I first learned of The Murder at World’s End, by Ross Montgomery, on several YouTube book review channels. The readers/hosts of the shows described this as an entertaining surprise and fun British mystery that could easily go unnoticed in the genre if not for word of mouth. So, I’m spreading the word on this locked-room mystery with a wonderful cast of characters, humorous dialogue that keeps the story moving, and a historical backdrop. It’s a truly entertaining, can’t-put-down read.

As I was perusing the new books at my local library, I spotted Farrell Covington and the Limits of Style, by Paul Rudnick. Normally, my local library will place a rainbow sticker on the spine of an LGBTQ+ novel. For some reason, this book was overlooked – so it’s not immediately apparent that it’s gay subject matter, increasing the likelihood that non-LGBTQ+ patrons may pick it up. No matter who reads it, though, the novel is like a walk through history, as it navigates the relationship of a gay couple and their circle of friends and politics over decades. It had drama, joy, humor, sadness – all of the human emotions that bind us together, no matter who one loves.

The lawn, though, didn’t care about our reading habits or the heat. It continued to grow and, as a result, needed constant mowing. Once a week, I dressed down in my lawn-mowing attire: blue bathing suit, faded blue golf shirt that’s never seen a golf course but has seen years of gardening stains, iPod set to my ‘80s playlist, wide-brimmed hat, and glaucoma sunglasses. (I don’t have glaucoma, but it’s my best option to keep the unrelenting sunlight from burning my corneas.)

On these mowing days, I was a hot mess by 9:00 am — and one morning, my very spry, thirty-something neighbor came walking by in his fashionably matched black shorts, black t-shirt, black sneakers, and air buds. My neighbor wasn’t sweating.

We smiled and waved to one another. He had calories to burn and I had a lawn to mow… and that lawn, I noticed, was looking more and more like a field of weeds. Had my if-it’s-green-it-can-stay lawn policy backfired? Am I reaping what I had not sown?

Well, sort of.

Florida Snow.

I really don’t know the names of the weeds in my yard, other than Florida Snow (pictured above and at the top of this post in its blossom stage), Richardia grandiflora, which blankets my lawn with pale lavender or white flowers. It’s also known as Largeflower Mexican Coneflower – and despite the locations in these two informal names, this low-growing, creeping plant is a South American native, introduced to Florida as an ornamental groundcover.

And cover the ground it has. Florida Snow and so many of the other weeds in my lawn have taken over. Swaths of weeds have become empires, intermingling at their edges – some are easily mown, while others have a tendency to pop up after the lawn mower passes, forcing me to do another pass.

I now knew my mission. Armed with the app, iNaturalist, on my phone, I decided to take stock of my weeds, to learn their names and their characteristics, and then to decide if they are worthy of my lawn policy.

Ceylon Pouzolzia.

 Ceylon Pouzolzia (Pouzolzia zeylanica), an invasive species, is a native of tropical and subtropical Asia and northern Australia, where its leaves and roots are eaten or used for medicinal purposes. In my yard, however, it’s relentless, growing through shrub beds and weaving its way through the branches on its quest for sunlight.

It also has a somewhat deep growing, orange-colored taproot or tuber and pulling this out has become a game for me. I dig my fingers below the soil level until I can grab onto the top of the root and slowly work the plant out of the ground. If I can’t get the whole thing, Pouzolzia comes back with more stems. If I remove the whole weed… nothing but satisfaction and glory!

Creeping Beggarweed.

My least favorite of all of my weeds is Creeping Beggarweed (Desmodium incanum), another invasive species. Native to Central and South America, Creeping Beggardweed knows no bounds in my yard. As its name implies, its runners creep and weave their way through the lawn and beds, until the stems end in small magenta flowers.

It’s impossible to pull Creeping Beggarweed by hand, since its runners do one of two things – break or pull up plants that have grown over the runners.

The sticky seeds of Creeping Beggarweed.

Even more frustrating are the sticky seeds (pictured below) that silently hitch a ride on my lawn-mowing clothes, sneakers, and skin, as well as the lawn mower’s blades and wheels. In caring for my lawn, I inadvertently spread the weed. (By the way, I’d also recommend keeping pets away from the sticky seeds. They can wreak havoc once attached to fur.)

Since researching Creeping Beggarweed, I’ve learned that it’s a part of the legume family and can help fix nitrogen levels. Still, that’s not enough for me to say, “Welcome. Make yourself at home.”

On the other hand, I would certainly say those words to Turkey Tangle Frogfruit (Phyla nodiflora), an actual Florida native. I’m not sure how it reached my yard, but I’m happy that it found a home here. Frogfruit has small white-to-pink flowers with purple centers that seem to float above the low growing, evergreen mat. Pollinators love it and it’s easy to manage with mowing. As I’ve learned more about it, I’m tempted to dig up some clumps and plant them in some of the beds as a groundcover.

Turkey Tangle Frogfruit.

 This is really just the start of my weeding assignment. There are so many more weeds to explore – and I think I’ll save that for a future post. (Speaking of future posts, my anxiety also amped up throughout the summer, primarily because of the current State of the Nation and the approaching midterm elections. I’ve tried to keep it in check, but it’s just below the surface. I may also explore this in a future post – whether or not I do, I encourage all Americans to utilize their right to vote.)

In the meantime, I haven’t reached the point of ripping up my entire lawn to create a wildflower meadow. I don’t think the city code enforcer who drives down my street several times a week would allow that. He and the city tend to like a neatly mown lawn, no matter what weeds are growing in it.

I also don’t think I’ve reached the point of chemical treatments to curtail weed growth. It actually doesn’t make economic sense to me, especially if animals, people, and wind can spread seeds from neighboring lawns that aren’t treated.

For now, then, it’s hand-based containment of the worst offenders. At best or at worst, I’ll have a bio-diverse lawn – and that’s something that makes the pollinators of the garden very happy.

And that’s the sort of happiness I’m holding onto.

Mowing for Sanity: The Lawn & Short of It


During stressful times – and I certainly think these days can be considered stressful times – I think of my friend, Sue. Not that she’s a stressful person – far from it, as a matter of fact — but I always remember how she coped with stressful days when she taught second grade in the classroom next to Joe. That’s when I first met her.

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Honey, I’m Home


It’s funny to write that headline, “Honey, I’m Home,” because I’ve never really gone away. There have been a few trips — all crammed into a short span of time — but for the most part, I’ve been home.

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Dollarweed Makes No Sense


Dollarweed

When it comes to my lawn, I’m pretty much a live and let live kind of guy. If it’s green, it stays — and for decades my policy has worked.

I haven’t had to use poisons. Insects and wildlife seem to appreciate the blend of greens and flowering weeds. Most importantly, it’s the one aspect of gardening and home ownership that has remained stress-free.

I refuse to be a suburban slave to my lawn — at least that’s what I said until dollarweed entered my life.

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A Weed By Any Other Name . . .


Weed all about it! Florida Pusley; Richardia scabra.  The multitude of small flowers close up at night and then reopen with the sun.

Weed all about it! Florida Pusley; Richardia scabra.
The multitude of small flowers close up at night and then reopen with the sun.

When it comes to my lawn, I’m pretty basic, following one important rule.  Be green.  I’m not too fussy about what’s actually growing — but as long as it’s green, it has a place in the lawn.

When I see that in writing, it sounds as if I’m a bit of a colorist, embracing one color over all others.  In actuality, though, the green weeds are welcome to bloom in any color they like.  I just find that my color requirement for admittance into the lawn is one way to keep me from having to resort to herbicides and liquid fertilizers.  I have no intention of having my little piece of suburbia become one of the stops on a national golf tournament.

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Repost: A Labor Of Love — Lost


Black-Eyed Susan

In honor of the holiday weekend, here is a post that first appeared one year ago.  The photos still haunt me.  I recently returned to the nursery-that-was, and not much has changed.  Yes, the weeds have been mown and the random pots removed, but the structures remain (albeit a little more dilapidated).  There are also a couple of flatbed trailers parked on the lot, but the abandoned nursery remains, a testament to the loss of small, local, neighborhood nurseries and small businesses that can’t keep up with the onslaught of retail and box store chains, rising rents, and a lifeless economy.  

On this Labor Day, please visit a local nursery — and if you would like to open your own, I know a place that’s available.

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A Labor Of Love — Lost


It’s Labor Day weekend – a time tailor-made for beaches, barbecues, parades, and speeches.  But on this particular holiday, I’m staring at the remains of a small, neighborhood garden center on Long Island.

I’m not sure exactly what happened here.  Did the owner retire, unable to sell the business?  Did some sort of illness interfere?  Was the small nursery unable to compete against the box stores that sprout like weeds?  Or perhaps, this nursery is just another victim of an economy that has failed to thrive?

It’s amazing how quickly the weeds and wildflowers have turned this once manicured plot into an overgrown prairie.  Slowly, however, it gives up its secrets.

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Weeding Is Fundamental


I love a good weed.  It’s when I feel that I am most in my head, when I do my best thinking, when my imagination wanders up and down and sideways.

That’s the way it was this weekend when I knelt down to begin weeding the bed that’s wedged between a blue stone patio and a row of white pines growing in a bed of ivy behind a low stone wall.  In truth, I began working on this bed weeks ago, when I cleaned it, weeded it, and planted the Gomphrena “Strawberry Fields” that I had started from seed.

And that’s where the work ended.  Now all I see is the Gomphrena swallowed up by a new flush of weeds because I never had the chance or the time to place mulch.  It’s uncanny how the driest stretch of my yard, heated by the surrounding stonework, is the perfect home for weeds.   

As I pulled and yanked, my green world became black and white and I imagined myself in a 1940s film noir flick.  In it, I’m in a chair, a beam of light aimed at me and throwing the far corners of the room into shadows.  There’s a detective hovering above me, hair slicked back, hands on his waste so I can see his gun holstered under his jacket.

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Extra! Extra! Weed All About It!


Weeding.  It’s one of those necessary chores of gardening, and generally, there are two approaches.  The first is, pull ‘em as you see ‘em.  I try to take this sensible approach as often as I can.  More than likely, though, I usually find myself in a weed-a-thon, removing a tangled jungle of inconsiderate weeds that continued to grow and spread despite my not having enough time to choose option one.

That’s how it is right now with this blog.  I’ve let several things build up and now it’s time to weed.

First, I owe Beyond Confessions an apology.  Weeks ago – yes, weeks – Beyond Confessions nominated me for the Versatile Blogger Award.  Although it is definitely an honor to be nominated, I feel kind of strange accepting it because I’ve received this award twice before.

When she informed me of her nomination, I posted a reply saying thank you – and that maybe she should nominate someone else under the circumstances.  I mean, let’s share the wealth a bit.  Besides, I really don’t know if I can handle the requirements of the award.  I’m all out of random facts about myself – or at least the random facts I feel comfortable telling you all about. 

As soon as I clicked send, however, the guilt struck me like a clump o’ mud – and it has been weighing on me, quite heavily.  No matter my logic for declining the award, the truth is Beyond Confessions should be thanked and her blog should be recognized.  Not only did she take the time to nominate me and 14 other sites, she also completed the award’s requirements while documenting her life as a new mom on her blog. 

So, here’s my compromise.  I have thanked Beyond Confessions.  I will not reveal any more random facts about me.  But I will  nominate blogs that I have recently discovered — because they deserve to be recognized.

  1. Daylily Soup – Beth is an Alabama-based gardener who fills her site with amazing words and amazing photos, all of which document her passion.
  2. Sods Law – Amy is a photographer first , and now she has a garden.  A match made in heaven.
  3. Vickie Szumigala Photo Blog — Vickie is a self-taught photographer who is looking to share tips on making this craft affordable and easy.
  4. The Word Hoarder — Rich is an Irish ex-pat now living, gardening, raising a family, and writing in North Carolina.  Join him on his journey.
  5. The Soulsby Farm — I am always impressed with the diversity of people’s lives out there.  Here Dan not only shares his family , but also the work he does on his small farm.  Fascinating stuff.
  6. This Modern Wife — Alanna shares much of her life as she seeks to redefine what it means to be a wife in the 21st century.
  7. Skeptical Gardener — A new homeowner and the responsibility of landscaping and tending to a garden.

My second bit of weeding has to do with so many of the comments I received during March – also known as St. Patrick’s Month.  Many of you requested a photo of me in full parade regalia.  I don’t show this sort of stuff to just anyone. . . but. . . here it goes:

This is me parading in a local parade on Long Island.  My friend Cathey captured me in mid-blow, jowls full of air.  Bagpiping may not always be pretty, but I do love the accessories.